why should it
it’s only six years
perhaps I’m old and jaded but six years is nothing in the scheme of things, and Stiles is very mature for his age, because of what he has been through, as is Derek, in season one Derek was still a frightened child lashing out, for all of his age (22)
in some cases I do agree the age difference is important, Kate was six years older than Derek, but at the same time don’t you think intent means more. Derek wouldn’t hurt stiles, he has grown to trust him and like him, they have grown up together, but Kate at 22 was already a psycho who wanted ot hurt him and burn his house down
so I don’t think the age differnece matters, what matters is the person and that they are honest about who they are and what they want
Gotta say, the age gap thing on a personal level totally and completely baffles me. I really feel like these people are missing the entire point of the text? People have become really obsessed with this whole age gap argument and I’m almost fascinated as to why, particularly as it’s so far out of my personal experience. Stiles is canonically a few months away from 18 months. At 18, I was dating guys in their 20s, most of my friends were, so I sort of bristle when people imply there’s something sick and wrong about it. And the older you get, the less this age gap matters. When the series started and Stiles was only 16, sure, that was too young. Hell, if you go back to s1, Derek was too young and extremely vulnerable, too. S1!Derek, for all his posturing, looks like a scared little boy who was robbed of his childhood and is stuck in limbo. S4, he’s achieved adulthood, and I’d argue the same goes for the others - or at least, they’re well on their way (that’s what the hero’s journey is all about really, it’s a rite of passage). One of the things I love about Teen Wolf is the steady growth of emotional development evident in every character. I’m watching s4 with one friend right now, and introducing the show to another friend (currently just finished s1) - the difference between the characters is really striking. At the heart of it, that’s what this show is all about- the transition to adulthood. Look at the dialogue with the parental figures, Melissa asking Noshiko why they’re asking their kids to fight such battles: because they have to, they have to allow their kids to take responsibility for their lives, to fight for them, to let them grow up - otherwise they’re dead. There’s a huge difference in the way Melissa treats Scott (trust, respect, while still being a kickass mother and support) with the way the Sheriff treats Stiles (lack of trust). So I think this age gap argument flies in the face of what the storyline between the Sheriff and Stiles is arguing - that at some point you have to recognise and trust your kids to make their own educated decisions, to view them as adults capable of making their own choices. The sad thing with Stiles’ storyline right now is that his dad clearly doesn’t view him as an adult, doesn’t trust him to make his own decisions, and it only results in more lies between them.
Another thing that really confuses me in this argument is that people seem to be under the impression that the moment the clock strickes 12 on Stiles’ 18th birthday, he’s going to be magically infused with wisdom and knowledge and no one will be able to manipulate and take advantage of him from that moment on. Which no. He’s going to be the exact same kid he was a few hours ago at 17. And if someone really wants to play with his head, whether he’s underage or not won’t matter. Sure in another case the victim being young and unexpirienced will probably be an advantage for the abuser but by now Stiles is anything but unexpirienced in being manipulated and used. And he might be physically young but he’s been through more in the past year than most adults go through in their entire lifetimes.
And that’s not even taking into account the fact that Derek would probably rather lock himself in a burning house than do anything his partner does not want or is uncomfortable with.